Listen carefully—without judging or blaming.
Tell your friend that you believe what they are saying, that you are there for them, and that it is not their fault.
Let them know you are concerned for their safety, and remind them of other people in their life who love and care about them.
Acknowledge your friend’s courage, and point out the good qualities they have.
Remind them of all their strengths and that they deserve a healthy, happy and fun relationship.
Don’t try to condone or rationalize the abuse, or be a mediator between the two
people in an unhealthy relationship. No one deserves to be abused, and domestic
violence is against the law.
Don’t try to get your friend to choose between their partner and you—this could make your friend feel like they can’t talk to you. Let your friend know you’ll be there when they are ready.